Helping Your Parents

One day you received a call from Mom saying that your Dad went to hospital. You of course panic and yet managed to asked all the right questions, and connect with the doctor and started called family members.

And on the midst of all you came to realized that you know nothing about their financial and living situation. You panic even more to know that they are in troubles. So after the facts you need started help them get organized.

Few things to started are bank accounts, living will, power of attorney, doctors and last but not least recruit and delegated assistance. Find family members with talent, or hire professionals to do the work. Your parents may shown some resistance, however those things has to be done, cant wait. So started the conversation.

Google Home Mini or Amazon Alexa

An article at AARP February\2020 talks about how home devices will assist in finding out if the person suffers from cognitive impairment.

Researchers are confident that these two voice recognition devices will assist them in their studies, mainly because the data is already entered and, more importantly, have a diagnosis sooner rather than later for those suffering from mental health issues.
The future looks promising for those with the stigma and unawareness of their diagnosis and unexpected mood changes; from that point on, there will be more clarification and information, not to mention researchers will have more answers.

Mismatched Goals or Just Stubbornness

Stubborn is more likely if your loved one has no balance and has been falling three or more times each or every other week; I am sorry to say that you are stubborn.

Life, as we know, is a balanced act. However, if a family member doesn't step in and take away the car keys, make the doctors, hairdresser or barber and call in the plumber for appointments, there is no balance. For some, there may be a feeling of you are crossing the line. I would risk asking for forgiveness than permission, as no one wants loose what they call freedom; not myself either. However, I need to outsmart the situation: drive and hurt myself or someone else, or rely on public transportation? Go to a grocery store or fresh-direct? As we age, your groceries are no longer easy to get as they were when you were younger.

A study with 189 older adults and their aging parents find that 77% of the children from the older adults say they have seen stubbornness from their loved ones. Two-thirds of those parents admit being stubborn.
Think Your Aging Parents Are Stubborn? ‘Blame Mismatched Goals’ says the Nytimes.

Understanding Self-Isolation and Physical Contact

Now where everyone is concerned about the coronavirus, many still have a question about quarantine, self-isolation and physical contact. When I go out to perform my exercise, I make myself physically distant from everyone, as I have been told by doctors and the government.
That does not mean that I should not keep in touch with my family and friends, neither that I should not know my next-door neighbor.
Every time one sneeze came from outside, wash your hands, change your clothes and disinfect all objects that are coming from outside.
On March 9th I wrote a blog talking about spending time with yourself.
Everyone should be one phone call away from your loved ones, neighbors, and/or those that belong to your social circle.
I urge everyone to stay safe.

Lineman Became a Doctor

A lineman with a beautiful family and an impressive career as a gynecologist has to retire at 42 years old due to his diagnosis with Dementia.

He was a lineman who took one to many head concussions, as a young man he was a gloried in his fraternity.

Seven years ago he started to notice how, here and there, he would start to forget things, once he even was performing surgery and he had to excuse himself and make an excuse to try to recall what he was supposed to do.

A heart-wrenching story about a lineman. Who has a beautiful family, an awesome future and a wonderful family, that was all cut short because Dementia robbed him of all of that.

Read more about at A Lineman Became a Doctor, but Dementia Made Him Retire. He’s Only 42.

Find Time to Be With Yourself

Everything we do to improve our lives and ourselves is important, spend time with friends, going out, exercise, read, and the list is long. An amount that is very important to spend time with ourselves.

That’s right spending time with ourselves is very important, teach us on how to deal with everyday issues and also help us interact better with other comprehend others better, and in the process, you learn about what, when and why you like and dislike, as well as understand ourselves deeper.

I, a couple of years ago, wanted to see the Broadway show Riverdance, I remember I begged for others to come with me, I ended up not going. I would not go by myself. Years later, I started working with some else that agreed with me. That was a bad idea. Nowadays, I would not choose between a bad company and myself.

In 2018 I wanted to see Jersey Boys. I went by myself.

Why You Should Find Time to Be Alone With Yourself.

Two Sides of A Troubling Situation (Part II)

Last week I spoke about some companies trying to retire or let go of employees that are 50+ years old and replace with younger, fresh out of college ones. I did not mean to sound hasty, and if I did, I apologize, I intended to explain the balancing act to not be so fast at dismissing an older employee and quickly replace them with someone else younger. Having life experiences are precious and helps solve problems in the work environment.

Being fresh out of college is precious, and will also help solve problems in the workplace. Both sides have to come together. The fresh out of college and the senior employee have to come together and solve the problems. We (myself included) have to learn how to cross this bridge and met in the middle.

Two Sides of a Troubling Situation

On the one side, we have people thinking that after 50 years old, you should be put to pasture. I see employers think that it is cheaper to hire younger employees. It’s not. It’s very difficult to connect with younger employees; their interests, emotions, and financial resources are limited and restricted compared to older adults. As a veteran in life, my counter partners and I have a better understanding of our emotions and surroundings; we are better prepared.

And the second point is we spent millions every year. Americans 50 and older are fueling America’s economic engine. The financial muscle of people over 50 is growing. Spoiler alert: it’s time to pay attention to that fact.

A “senior” American spent $0.33 of a dollar in 2018, and by 2030, we will spend $0.66 of a dollar, not to mention jobs we hold.

Signs of Dementia

    • Lack of sleep (sleeping acts to clear your brain). With no sleep your brain can't perform its functions.
    • Hearing loss, without noticing people are addressing you, the feeling of isolation will grow in you.
    • Lack of socialization, either by going out with friends or checking in with an elderly neighbor, will make your brain slow down, try out this Sudoku puzzle to help keep your mind working.

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Alzheimer’s and Aging

Last week I talked about keeping yourself busy. It was a glimpse of myself. Like many other women, I  juggle many different hats. However, I want to express that since I turned 50, I heard my boss’s friends tell her that from now on, she needs to pay attention to my aging.
I will start easy, and won’t go down the age discrimination issue. I will stick with the Alzheimer’s issue.
Alzheimer’s isn’t an old age issue; it’s an issue period. Alzheimer’s is growing and maybe undiagnosed from some patients, which is why I stress and urge all of you people to listen to my experience.
Another note of my personal observations is it won’t be a surprise for me, if the so-called generation X will be the most ones with mental health issues, in my opinion, there isn’t much learning and more repetition.
Make’s me wonder that those on any age who copy these new generations may be signing up for an unwanted diagnose of Alzheimer’s, and that is a big concern. You can’t reverse Alzheimer’s damage.