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Should you or Shouldn’t you disclose a disability to your employer

Just read an article in the New York Times about how or when to disclose a disability to your employer or co-worker. When I first started working with my last client, before leaving for school and beginning to work on my own business, I did tell my patient that I sometimes would forget things. Right then and there I signed my death sentence.

The client calls her friends to tell them that I had mental health issues as well as a learning disability. I have never in my life had those diagnoses. However, it was easy for her to label me as one. Her mom even mentions to me that I had Bipolar disorder. A disorder that I have known because I had worked with a client who had the diagnoses. And thanks to that client I had to participate in her psychiatric sections, which helped me in understanding how to better help her.

Mental health disabilities and chronic pain are known to be an invisible disability, physical disability is known to be visible. I just learn.

Because I did had that bad experienced I would say don’t say about your disability, however, I also do understand that would be easy to assist you to perform your best if your boss has the knowledge about what makes you tick. One thing that personally bothers me is enough already of having the conversation, let’s work on it.

It does not matter if you do not have a disability or not, we always will have some else trying to make us feel bad about ourselves. The power is within us to not allow that to happen.

Who Helps our Doctors with their Mental Health Issues?

How often we all fantasize and even glamorize a doctor’s life, however, how many of us think doctors, our beloved doctors, may have a dark secret and or are overworked, or underpaid, and could be strangling to make their ends meet or suffering from mental health issues?

Does anyone realize that many doctors start their day by 3 am, where there is a need to perform surgery, by 6 am giving rounds in the hospitals and visiting their patients, by 17 pm maybe eating lunch, and by 12 am going home to start a few short hours later? Who assists the doctor in recovering and or talks to them when a patient passes on? There should be an easy situation, life takes a turn to the worst. Who is there for them with their difficulties?

Nowadays everyone is bound to deal with a mental health crisis Doctors are the same as any person, alone dealing with their own feelings. How do you help a doctor with their own health crisis? Where should begin, how do we make sure that doctors seek help as they prescribe it to us?

Here is my question: would you recommend a good psychiatrist for your doctor?

Front Liners of the Medical Professionals

You can’t start talk about the Registered Nurse or doctors without mention the from line folks that are the core of the medical field, home health care aides and emergency medical technicians.

Being a home health care aides is the thankless job ever anyone can possibly desire, no one consider their everyday observance and acknowledgement, no one appreciates the fact that in order for a family safely choose to keep their loved one aging at home, both client and family members will really heavenly in their caregivers. When a caregiver needs a day off for a medical appointment all hell breaks loose because no one can and more often them one imagen wants to stay with their loved one. Family members don’t know how to or don’t care to know how a caregiver perform their job.

All it knows is that some else must stay with mom or their choice will be transfer mom to a nursing home. Home health care training cost $ 1.300,00 plus uniform and maybe a book, should last a year.

Now, I know very little about EMTs however I do know that they deal with clients with mental health issues, perform CPR on and all are dealing with a very stressful situation, make life changing choices in split seconds time, and more often them we think never make back home. They are training should last a year, cost $ 1.000,00 plus $ 500,00 on books, room and boar all coming from the candidate.

And both paid $ 15,00 an hour, for the candidate to make a decent living, most has two or more jobs, and neither require college degree, making their cost not worth. My personal advice, no one should think their they are in a career, those professionals should consider moved on as fast as they can.

Assisting your loved one Downsizing

Start small, start with an idea or suggesting that maybe its time to downsizing. Explain the safety issues with their current living situations. Plan, do not ambush your loved one, don’t think by a minute that you are taking the charge and pack things and moving your loved one from their home to a smaller place there won’t be challenges, or fights and even anxiety. You are wrong, even a person diagnoses with Alzheimer’s/Dementia you will have a problem.

Take the lead, not take the charge, do not go ahead and start making decisions, lead the way. The best way is to start to point out how the winter is brutal that winter times require to winterize the whole house and that how difficult it became to go up and down the basement stair to do the laundry, remember your loved ones they are included in the process.

Make appointments to visit some senior apartments, encourage the fact that some of the senior complex offer home health care services.

For the most take away here is explain that you are assisting your family member rightsizing for the future. For many senior, making the decision to move to a retirement community isn’t about downsizing to a smaller place- it’s about finding  the right place, social activities, plan a different kind of future, to a space that better fits their new life and goals.

Stopping your Life to Take Care of your Loved One

Lately I have being seeing a lot commercial about one’s taking care of their family member and getting paid for. I have a very strong against position about this. All the commercial says that my son or daughter takes care of “me” and have a financial means to care for their own families and “I” feel safe to know that a family member is here with me.

What it really concerns me is what its not being say, a family member taking care of a parent of a loved one stops living their own lives, being a caretaker means giving and not receiving. In case you are single and in school, how can you leave the person to go to school or go out with friends so the loved one does not stay alone. Now if you are married with children of your own, how can you not disrupt your family routine to be with your loved one around the clock.

Getting pay is not enough for a very taxing and demanding work, clients wants and needs around the clock attention, and this to mention that diagnoses such as dementia and sometimes when the elderly falls. In some cases, the children are spread around the country, or does not had a great family structure to fell close enough to their loved one neither they have a comfortable level to embrace the caregiving.

When you choose to an agency to assisted you in hire an aide you also are getting the “village” need to assist your loved one.

Safety At Home And Out

For the past ten years we have being seeing an increased-on Seniors scams. How can we be one step ahead of the game? Lately it is not only seniors, is everyone.

Scammers are out to prey on any one whom give than their time.

I learn few tricks am gladly will share with you.

1)I only open the door when I order take out or am expecting deliver, and when the deliver people came, I asked who it is;

2)I never disclosed on social media when I am traveling, I await to post after I came back. I also never disclosed pin-point precision location;

3) I text my relatives one by one where and when I am off traveling;

4) I only have one social media page wish is used to keep in touch with my family living abroad. Notice here that I do not mention location;

5) I don’t answer my phone call I let them go to voice message;

6) when I am driving and some else knocks at my window, I do not roll down and exposed myself, making myself vulnerable;

7) when I first start in 2005, I started off by being a 24/7 living in aide, my client who used to lose everything lost the key from the main door, we lived day and night without lock the door. I never disclosed that info until I went to jobs interviews;

8) Put a mat into the shower stall or tube, if you leave by yourself bring your phone with you;

9) Do not open your wallet on the street, do not give to people coming to you asking money on an organization behalf, usually an organization or any other group has a webpage design to donation collection.

Character Assassination

Many people believe, and freely use, the word “normal” to their standards. Not being “normal” does sometimes not comply with ones believes.

I have witnessed several occasions where many believed that I am not “normal”, the reasons vary, usually is related to my reaction, or lack thereof.

I am a very (proudly) calm and collected person, where often gets to annoy some to their core, expecting to attract a reaction or surprise me, which none holds true for me.

When the person came to terms that I am blank with no reaction or facial expression the labeling starts, I am not “normal”.

Usually, it starts with a normal person would or should say this or that or act these or that way. The lack of reaction that I bring is due my personality, I do not enjoy engagement at the level with no one. I don’t participate in confrontations or argumentations and rather defuse the situation I carefully have study myself, and the lack of reaction that so many claims, is because being there done that. And even at the first time around is my self-defense mechanism.

Addiction

When a family is afflicted by a family member that has an addiction problem it can drive a family (not just parents and siblings) everyone is dragged into, grandparents, cousins, aunts, and uncles alike. It can become very emotional to everyone involved, and not to mention financial bankruptcy.

Many parents feel obligated to financially support their addict family member. For some families, treatments can start as $ 2.000,00 monthly to a six-figure expense. Some parents even paid off the child drug debt.

Some parents find support with groups from churches, some decide to no longer “panic” or act towards their own child until the addict decides to look for medical help. Instead of a quick solution.

Some decide to take baby steps, cutting out their child little by little, such as cutting off from the phone family plan and giving their kid a pay as you go phone (disposable).

Each person must come up with their own action plan, if you are a kind of doer and rather cut off ties faster than later, so be it.

Whatever works for you, do not give up, bear in mind that many families and thousands of American households have gone through, or are going through this now. Do not expect to be in and out in one year, I am sorry to say that is one day at a time, a long process, there are many failures throughout and there is always support groups, you are never alone.

After Caregiving

How do you find your footing after years caring for your loved one?

The day after your loved one passes what do you do first?

These is the question that only you can answer (whenever you are ready to). You cannot accept that some else make those choices on your behalf. Years ago, when I lost my mother (I was 26 years old) my older sister could not slept in the house, leaving me by myself with her dog, I woke up the next morning had a cup of coffee walk the dog and went on a practical mode, I packed all my mother belongs and call the salvation army to came to pick up. By the time my sister came back everything was set and resolved, I did not had formulated a plan.

The question is what you want to do with the time suddenly open on your life. Make short term plans, like not have dog (s) for a while, ( no numbers) slowly finding out more about yourself, reinvent and remember what your likes and dislikes are, remember who you are, grieve, get upset, cry when you fell you need to, reach out to others, many people lose their loved ones also, remember you are not alone, other went through the loss.

My point is, its fine not always have the answers, they will come over time, do not put pressure on a very stressful situation, do what’s right for you.

Mental Health Diagnosed and Undiagnosed

Do we always know when an individual is acting or is their mental health issues is there mental health diagnoses symptoms?

I consider myself very good on reading a body language and I by my own experienced determine that when one’s told the same story more them three times, I find to be true. For that there is no scientific knowledge.

I think that if someone is diagnosed with mental health and the family can help me and give me some insights about the client’s character, that gives back up information to assisted me on my day to day dealings.

I came to work with many clients were the family has very little interaction with them, making work more difficult, for that I need used my own skill to call the shots and keep an honest daily report about activities, reaction to my assistance and response to everyday tasks.

I am very intrigue by the brain and its functionality, therefore try crack the code is a good exercise for me.